tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7132206171945839649.post5115305485001144598..comments2024-02-13T11:11:28.246+00:00Comments on Bishop Alan’s Blog: Anxiety, leadership & Rabbi FriedmanBishop Alan Wilsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13879516755776951638noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7132206171945839649.post-19125142393456583512024-02-13T06:35:55.662+00:002024-02-13T06:35:55.662+00:00Rabbi Friedman's insights on anxiety and leade...Rabbi Friedman's insights on anxiety and leadership are enlightening. Grateful for his wisdom in navigating these challenges with resilience. <a href="https://stickneycounseling.com/" rel="nofollow">Stickney Counseling</a><br />Stickney Counselinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13000339717946815045noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7132206171945839649.post-50347437231342750782024-02-08T06:39:55.623+00:002024-02-08T06:39:55.623+00:00Insightful exploration of anxiety, leadership, and...Insightful exploration of anxiety, leadership, and Rabbi Friedman's wisdom. Engaging and thought-provoking, offering valuable perspectives on navigating life's challenges. <a href="https://corerecoveryaz.com//%22" rel="nofollow">Core Recovery (Arizona)</a>Core Recovery (Arizona)https://www.blogger.com/profile/08362160458432173457noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7132206171945839649.post-1686147822733322402008-09-11T22:55:00.000+01:002008-09-11T22:55:00.000+01:00Episcopalians in Dallas were totally immersed in R...Episcopalians in Dallas were totally immersed in Rabbi Friedman's Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue. My treasured copy is right here in front of me...<BR/><BR/>G2G was effectively the 'manual for ministry formation' in the Diocese with its 'radical' idea that clergy must be a non-anxious presence and provide self-differentiated leadership. We even did a diocesan family systems study based on some of the ideas.<BR/><BR/>Another very effective tool is the concept of triangulation and mostly the warning to avoid it. I actually preached on the idea last Sunday, suitably 'laicised', here at my parish.<BR/><BR/>In these days of endemic clergy breakdowns, some of it way too close for comfort, Friedman's wisdom could not be more appropos.<BR/><BR/>I wonder if he prays for us stressed-out clergy in heavenly Hebrew. Comforting thought that!FrDarrylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14220816236848071291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7132206171945839649.post-50686026167186121442008-09-09T15:57:00.000+01:002008-09-09T15:57:00.000+01:00Thanks, Erika for diagnosing a possible note of ri...Thanks, Erika for diagnosing a possible note of rigidity about "defining myself" that I don't imagne the good rabbi would have endorsed. I think what he meant was "me having the freedom to be myself" but not "me holding desperately?) onto a rigid view of myself regardless of feedback." He stressed being aware of what is me and what is not, rather than having a big I am view of myself. I'm entirely with your concern, here. Geoff, in ignorance, I hadn't made the connection between the Mennonite process and family systems theory; many thnks. I'd be interested in Friedman's DVD. I know Mary Cotes in MK has used his "Fables" in groups — but I remember her telling me about trying to use one with a rather cautous and stuck congregation in a Church in Wales, with whom family systems rabbinic wisdom went down like a bit of a rat sandwich...Bishop Alan Wilsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13879516755776951638noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7132206171945839649.post-8138396907558796232008-09-09T14:46:00.000+01:002008-09-09T14:46:00.000+01:00This is an excellent book and his thinking deserve...This is an excellent book and his thinking deserves wider exposure. I've done the BridgeBuilder (London Mennonite Centre) Family Systems Theory Course and it's based upon the work of Bowen and Friedman - it's superb! They use videos and I'm told that the ones by Friedman are now available on DVD which would be very worthwhile aquiring - he's something else on the screen! <BR/><BR/>BridgeBuilder do follow-up days for those having done the course in order to carry on processing this stuff, though I've not managed to get to one yet. Thanks for raising it - I've got it on my 'blog to do' list.Geoff Colmerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05399306737741865827noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7132206171945839649.post-79028966745874462162008-09-09T14:27:00.000+01:002008-09-09T14:27:00.000+01:00Thanks, +Alan, helpful thoughtsThanks, +Alan, helpful thoughtsmaggihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07246507654740964519noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7132206171945839649.post-56152809370463546522008-09-09T10:43:00.000+01:002008-09-09T10:43:00.000+01:00It does ring bells, but some of them are warning b...It does ring bells, but some of them are warning bells.<BR/>With all the best advice in the world you can only truly succeed if you have the abilities within you to begin with. Otherwise:<BR/><BR/>“Defining yourself” is in danger of becoming rigid inflexibility because I am what I am and I will not let others influence me.<BR/><BR/>“Sticking with reality” is in danger of becoming sticking with my own perception of reality because I no longer listen to the reality of others. Dismissing others on the basis of their level of anger can be correct, but it can also be a symptom of having lost touch with their reality and the possible justness of their requests.<BR/><BR/>If you can get those two right, the other points are fantastic and really should help.Erika Bakerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01812376497361267014noreply@blogger.com