We urgently need such reminders amid the “restless boredom, frantic escapism, commitment phobia, and enervating despair” of contemporary life, particularly in the context of a marriage such as the one that unfolds in this book. In a society where acedia results in relationships that are recycled more often than aluminum cans, Norris insists that what is most likely to maintain a marriage is not giddy romance but discipline, martyrdom, and obedience (which, at its etymological root, refers to hearing): “The very nature of marriage means saying yes before you know what it will cost. You may say the 'I do' of the wedding ritual in all sincerity, but it is the testing of that vow over time that makes you married.” Good advice in a culture where that "five-o'clock somewhere" mirage always beckons.This all points us to the ancient wisdom of our holy father Benedict, whose Rule was not conceived as legalism on speed, but a toolbox for sticking with discipleship through the dead zone, so that it can bear real fruit. Confronting the futility of our own lives, we can wallow ’n bitch, or engage the mid-day demon more closely, and grow a few better habits to promote stability...
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That's what I love about my contemplative faith, it allows me to understand the reason to keep on through the dry and dull areas of life and await the fruit at the end of it all. i have found the example and teaching from Thomas Merton to be a great resource.
Funny you shouod say this, Steve. I've been reading Merton's diaries recently as a kind of spiritual vitamin supplement! There's something special about the acuteness of his vision about what was really going on in various seasons of his life, against such a consistent backdrop of stability.
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